Crazy, Stupid, Love.

So a friend of mine posted this video in response to his viewing of the movie "Crazy, Stupid, Love." And in his video he brings up some very good points that I just wanted to elaborate, and some questions that I wanted to answer in my own response.

5 and a half years ago I met a man and instantly knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I know it's cliche but very true, so true in fact that I even told my best friend I would spend my life with him. I fought for a year and a half to finally make him mine, the man to finally call my own. Since that first day we met, I've been fighting to keep him. Like my friend Jorge, I don't give up so easily, because I don't want to be left with regrets. So I've done everything imaginable to keep this man in my arms for 5 and a half years. I've finally reached the end of my rope and can not fight any longer. I am mentally, physically, and emotionally, exhausted of giving my all and investing all of me into this relationship to work. I recently began to pull away, he's always asked for distance and I've finally given it to him. I didn't say a word, or announce my unhappiness, I simply just pulled away. As I began to do so, my body in all aspects began to conflict with my heart, my mind told me to be done and walk away, my legs lead me to the door, and my emotions completely shutdown at the thought of him. But my heart never gave up, no matter how hard I try to bury the love I have for this man, it still overpowers the rest of my body. 

Just yesterday he did something that I've waited 5 years for him to do, and it literally blew me away. As I started to cut him out of my life, he did something so out of character, something I've longed for, and pulled me right back in. Am I a fool ? perhaps! I didn't know at the very instant I knew I would love this man that heartache was a possibility, but it was something I very quickly realized it was. It was my motivation to fight harder to keep my man. We're not perfect in any shape or form but my love for him is something that I just can't shake. Will I continue to see this through, more than likely. Why? because I don't want to wake up one day and think, what if ? or I don't want to stare at old pictures and think, If only... So like Jorge asked, when is enough, enough? My answer would have to be when every fragment of your soul shuts down, when every piece of your being is telling you enough, when you hear his voice and feel nothing, when even though your mad face is on, there is no love behind it, then that's enough. Sometimes the easiest way is to walk away, and that's just what it is, easy. And sometimes he just doesn't love you as much as you love him. 

Life isn't easy, and I don't expect love to be, the title is self explanatory, it's crazy, it's stupid, but that's love.

Sexism in Delano ?

So I was laying in bed last night and I was running a list in my head of places where I could apply for employment. I can't do hard larbor, my body is not made for it, so it would have to be something else. Then I thought it would be great if I could earn tips. HMM ! Then it dawned on me... There is only one restaurant that comes to mind where MEN are actually hired as servers, Denny's. Every other restaurant in Delano only hires Women as servers/ waitresses. See the problem?

So again I ran a list in my head started to notice that every restaurant I've ever been too in Delano only has women servers. Perko's Diner, I've never seen a male server. Mi Nayarit, only has women servers and cooks. LR's Pizza only has women as bartenders. The Elks Lodge only has women as bartenders. Carmen's Mexican food, only women servers. Jenny's Cafe, only women servers. Can you see where I'm going with this. Where is a man like me suppose to get a job that earns tips, in Delano. Do I have to have a vagina for that, is that on the application as a pre-requisite, or maybe it's listed under the "Equal Opportunity Act". So I ask again do you believe there is Sexism in Delano. Yes! I do ! Unless I want to work at a fast food restaurant, or out in sun as a city employee, a field worker, or a warehouse employee. Where are my options ? Why are men not being employed for these positions just as women are, it's not because of looks. Tips are left based on service, if a customer is satisfied with your service then you get a tip. I know both male and female servers in restaurants in Visalia, California and the men make more than the women. So it's not looks. In my opinion it's the employer who prefers to hire women as servers because it is more visually appealing to them than a man.

Fact : A local restaurant owner was asked while in my presence, " Do you only hire women?" his response "Yes!" 

Sexist much ? 

 

Lipglossip's Boy Band's & Where Are They Now ?

Backstreet Boys, I can still remember when they first came into the scene I was completely ecstatic. Since the rise and fall of boy bands, the original band members are still working on a new album minus one member, Kevin Richardson. BSB are currently on tour with the New Kids on the Block. Nick Carter began his solo career and acting career, Brian Littrell is also a solo artist emphasizing on Christian Music. A.J. McLean began his solo career and acting career. Howie Dorough became a singer/song writer. And Kevin Richardson became an actor.

One of the most successful boy bands in the world is still in the lime light, individually that is. Since their split in 2002 Justin Timberlake became a solo artist and created his own clothing line. Joey Fatone became an actor. Lance Bass became a certified NASA astronaut, is openly Gay, and an actor. JC Chasez became a solo artist, song writer, and reality show judge. And finally Chris Kirkpatrick created his own clothing line as well.

98 Degrees, I wasn't really into them except for having a crush on Nick Lacey. Who after the group split in 2002, became a reality t.v. star with his show "The Newlyweds: Nick and Jessica ". Drew Lacey became a father and appeared on dancing with the stars. Justin Jeffre ran for Mayoral office in Ohio. And Jeff Timmons became a solo artist. 

Since their debut on MTV's Making the Band, the group struggled to gain the respect of critics for their music. Following suite after N'SYNC, Backstreet Boys, Westlife, 98 Degrees, etc. the group only released one album. Since 2003 when the group split, Ashley Angel starred in his own MTV reality show, worked on broadway and continues to work on solo projects as well. Jacob Underwood, is a solo artist living in Nashville. Erik Estrada became an actor. And Dan Miller is now producing his own music. 

Really only remembered for this one song, LFO split in 2002 as well, which seemed to be a trend in 2002. Rich Cronin, the lead singer, died on September 8, 2010 at the age of 36. Brad Frischetti has since then not been heard of. And Devin Lima formed another group and released an album. 

And finally my all time favorite, New Kids on the Block. After their split in 1994 the band has since then reformed and is currently on tour with fellow boy band Backstreet Boys. Jonathon Knight lives life as an openly Gay man, and went into real estate. Jordan Knight became a solo artist working on his 3rd album. Joey McIntyre also became a solo artist releasing his 5th album, and working on acting projects as well. Danny Wood started his own record label and is also a private jet sales executive. Donnie Wahlberg became an accredited actor.