Easy A

So I spent my morning with a friend, and my afternoon watching the movie "Easy A", and it was interesting to me how both went hand in hand. Rumors!

A friend is being effected at her place of employment because of rumors that are supposedly being spread outside of the work place and now she's in limbo with her job. I recently found out that a friend was trying to sabotage me by spreading a rumor that I didn't like a particular person, who happens to be the boyfriend of a friend. And then there's the movie which is all based on rumors... Are you ready?

My theory on people who spread malicious rumors in order to sabotage or ruin another persons life are very threatened by you and are jealous of you, and here's why. The moment they feel that you have begun to win over a particular persons attention or in this case a groups favored attention, they begin to feel threatened. The fear that they will no longer be liked by this person or persons in question. So what do they do, they  attack the one thing that makes you favored, whether it be your personality, your charisma, or your looks. Because they know that they can not compete with you in way shape or form, for the mere lack of a personality, charisma, job, or genetics, THEY ATTACK ! Now to those that listen and go with the rapid waters of these malicious attacks are nothing more than sheep. Yes, I  said it, sheep. You are being lead by a sheep herder who has nothing going for them in their own lives that they must create chaos in others lives, and even ruin aspects of them. In my case, I simply remove that person or persons from all aspects of my life. Whether it be deleting them from my social network, or phonebook, or just ignoring their calls in general. Why do I this? because I don't create fuel to the fire, instead I let that person be eaten by their own gossip. Wondering to themselves why I refuse to answer, why I deleted them, why I've completely exiled them from my life. Then when time has passed I confront them, both allowing them and myself to have a candid conversation without emotions involved, as opposed to bursting in a rave and rant that would only add fuel the gossip. 

In the case, of my friend and her employment, because it is a secluded group the only thing she can do is have an open and candid conversation with her main boss. Not the one the is always in the office but the actual person in charge. The one who ultimately makes the decisions when it comes down to employment. What she doesn't want to do is add to the gossip by spreading gossip about the gossip about her. Bad !

As the movie prolonged to share, the truth all unravels and the accused are redeemed and the sheep are put to shame and the leader to be dealt with by his/her own hands. Trust me this works, because what the person will do is spread more and more rumors trying to cover and make up stories that are not relevant to the person they are about, and soon the sheep will begin to notice that they themselves can not trust this person, because they too can become a victim of his/her whip. So the herd with part, then slowly more sheep will follow the fed up crowd, and soon the leader ends up alone, to wallow in their own misery. 

So in closing, don't let those rumors, no matter how nasty or unfair they maybe to you, affect you in anyway. Continue to be the person you are, and all will unravel soon enough. But the choice will be yours to greet the sheep that followed back into your life or not. In my opinion, accept them back with open arms and at arms length a part. Only tell people what you want them to know, or how I tend to think of it. What I want other people to know, but my secrets are kept in box in my closet deep within myself where only I can find them, and only I know what to expose. Keep the control !